I met this guy 3 years ago while I was out for my sister's birthday. I had just gotten out of a 4-year relationship and was not at all trying to meet anyone else. This guy came up to talk to my sister and offered to share a bottle of Grey Goose with us. Of course we said yes! She was mingling with him for a while. He happened to have a friend along with him who came up and started talking to me. Now I am a nice person...sometimes too nice, so even though I was not at all wanting to talk to anyone, I engaged in a conversation with him. Before we knew it, it was closing time and we were still talking. He was very nice and we had a lot in common. He finally asked me for my number and said he would like to take me out on a date....I was super hesitant as I did not want to start dating again. He said we can go out as friends with no expectations of anything coming out of it, and so I finally agreed.
The next weekend we went out to a comedy show. It was so much fun, and I really enjoyed his company. Finding a guy that can make me laugh and that loves to laugh as much as I do is something that is high up on my list of things I look for. He definitely came out on top with that. He called me again and asked if I would like to accompany him to the Bulls game the following week and even asked if my sister would like to come too. I thought that was very sweet that he not only asked me, but my sister as well. Again, we had a blast together. I was still not into wanting to date him as I didn't want to get to know anyone on that level yet, but I knew we could be great friends.
He ended up moving to L.A. and then was out of the country for a while for work and we didn't speak for about a year... Out of the blue, I get a text message from him saying Hi....at first, I didn't know who it was. When he told me I was so excited that he still had my number and that we were back in touch. When we started talking again, it was like no time had passed. We had such great conversations and could talk about anything. Even other people we had dated. We continued to text back and forth for a while, but then he went MIA again.
About six months later he text me and we have been in contact ever since. I started thinking....maybe this is fate. Are we meant to be more than friends?? I dated a couple guys since I met him and nothing worked out. Me and him have now been friends for a little over three years, but haven't seen each other since our second date. We had become good friends, but somehow now I was thinking that he could be the one for me. After talking on the phone for hours almost every night, I started getting feelings for him. I didn't want to have these feelings because he's in L.A. and I'm in Chicago...how could this ever work? I know long distance can be possible, but those relationships rarely start off as long distance. All these thoughts and emotions were running through my head. I began to wonder that maybe we had become too good of friends to be in a relationship....I mean he even called me "homie" as a nickname....if that is not the "friend zone," I don't know what is. But then he went to London for two weeks and called me almost every night...which was very early in the morning in London. A "friend" wouldn't stay up late/get up early just to hear your voice...would they?
He had made comments before about us being together in the past, but I had never taken him seriously. Now, I catch myself thinking about the possibilities of us being together. He is the busiest person I know because he travels constantly for work. We tried to make arrangements for me to visit a couple months ago, but he ended up having to go out of town for work that weekend. If we were meant to be, we would have seen each other by now...right? I'm not sure if I believe in fate, but I think there is something that keeps putting him in my path...I'm just not sure what it is.
He ended up moving to L.A. and then was out of the country for a while for work and we didn't speak for about a year... Out of the blue, I get a text message from him saying Hi....at first, I didn't know who it was. When he told me I was so excited that he still had my number and that we were back in touch. When we started talking again, it was like no time had passed. We had such great conversations and could talk about anything. Even other people we had dated. We continued to text back and forth for a while, but then he went MIA again.
About six months later he text me and we have been in contact ever since. I started thinking....maybe this is fate. Are we meant to be more than friends?? I dated a couple guys since I met him and nothing worked out. Me and him have now been friends for a little over three years, but haven't seen each other since our second date. We had become good friends, but somehow now I was thinking that he could be the one for me. After talking on the phone for hours almost every night, I started getting feelings for him. I didn't want to have these feelings because he's in L.A. and I'm in Chicago...how could this ever work? I know long distance can be possible, but those relationships rarely start off as long distance. All these thoughts and emotions were running through my head. I began to wonder that maybe we had become too good of friends to be in a relationship....I mean he even called me "homie" as a nickname....if that is not the "friend zone," I don't know what is. But then he went to London for two weeks and called me almost every night...which was very early in the morning in London. A "friend" wouldn't stay up late/get up early just to hear your voice...would they?
He had made comments before about us being together in the past, but I had never taken him seriously. Now, I catch myself thinking about the possibilities of us being together. He is the busiest person I know because he travels constantly for work. We tried to make arrangements for me to visit a couple months ago, but he ended up having to go out of town for work that weekend. If we were meant to be, we would have seen each other by now...right? I'm not sure if I believe in fate, but I think there is something that keeps putting him in my path...I'm just not sure what it is.
XOXO
Chrissy
He sounds like a great guy but he might not be ready for a relationship. Someone wanting to be seriously committed will do the attempt in seeing the other person...sometimes giving your life to work can eventually lead you to loneliness. Has he ever thought about that? does he eventually want a serious relationship in the future?
ReplyDeleteThanks for the comment. I agree that if he wanted to see me he would make a better effort. My problem is I'm hanging on to his words instead his actions...and as we all know, actions speak louder than words! I do know for a fact, though, that he does want to get married and have a few kids....he has mentioned that several times to me. He says he hopes it happens in the near future, but who knows how long that really is. (sigh)
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