I think my daughter will work for the United Nations one day because she's the peace keeper in my home and every where she goes she makes friends. As I mentioned in my previous post she has forced me to become more social and to also meet new people. When my husband and I start to get smart with each other or if we start to raise our voices she charges into the room and says "what's going on in here ?!" Then she makes us say that we are sorry and reminds us that it's not nice to be mean. It works. Whenever my husband gives her a kiss she quickly tells him "now mommy's turn." When you are married to someone for a few years and you have to share every aspect of your life it can get tiresome at times and you may lose your temper. I'm lucky enough to have a kid that reminds to be nice whenever I'm about to lose it.
If you are not as lucky to have built in referee, follow these easy steps:
#1 Use your indoor voice.
There is no need to yell. I'm pretty sure the other person stops listening when you start to yell, and then you are just yelling alone and that is very frustrating.
#2 No hitting below the belt.
If you been with the same person for a while you know what makes them tick. You know what can set them off so try and fight fair and not bring up something that happened a year ago that you've probably put away in your mental angry drawer. Say what you have to say and when you say it, remember you know where the imaginary line has been drawn. Do NOT cross it.
#3 No name calling.
This one is self explanatory he or she has a name use it. Remember it's not nice to be mean and there is nothing nice about calling someone a cow.
#4 Walk don't run.
Is there anything worse then someone walking away from you when you are in the middle of a fight? I don't think so. Let the other person finish what they are saying. Do not leave the room. Do not run out of the room. If you want to be heard you also have to be willing to listen.
Remember, we all argue and disagree. The important thing is to be respectful while doing it. Happy arguing everyone!
Cheers,
Mimi
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