First Date Rules...

I often wonder who wrote the rules about what should and should not happen on a first date. I mean, who determines acceptable first date conduct? Shouldn't it be the person on the date? As simple as this seems, society will always pass judgments based on what each individual considers "acceptable first date behavior."

I don't follow any specific rules, but I do like to get advice from men about dating from time to time. After all, men should know men better than women know men...right? Well the reality of it is, as knowledgeable as men are about their male counterparts, there is always an exception. For example, some men are turned off by a women who are willing to sleep with them on the first date...of course they still do it....they just may not ever make that woman their girlfriend and often times don't take her seriously afterwards. And then there are a few men who have been in long-term relationships with the women they slept with on the first night.

The best way to determine what to do or not do on a first date is to just go with the flow of how you feel and what you are comfortable with.  My advice is to always be true to yourself....you can never go wrong with that!

The following are things I do/don't do on first dates...maybe even the first couple dates. Now don't quote me as saying these are the golden rules...but this is how I stay true to myself. There is no right or wrong here....

1)      No kissing on a first date!

·         Now of course if you are feeling the guy you’re out with and the night went great…by all means do what your heart feels is right. Just be aware of the message you are sending to the guy. What will he expect on the second date?

    

2)      Absolutely no sleeping with a guy on a first date!

·         I’m no angel, but I’m a firm believer that a man needs to earn the chance to get lucky! Women who respect themselves will be respected by men. Now don’t get me wrong, I don’t think that women who sleep with a guy on the first date have no respect for themselves…I do understand that women have needs too!

3)      Be polite!

·         This may sound like common sense, but if women expect men to open the car door, pull out chairs, and pay for everything…make sure you let the guy know your are appreciative! Also, if the date is not the best, but not going horribly bad, humor him. There is no sense in making him feel bad if he is socially awkward or he does something you aren’t a fan of. Unless he is being rude, inappropriate or offensive, continue the date. If he asks you out again, you can say you are not interested.

4)      Drink wisely!

·         I like to drink when I'm out, but I make sure that I don’t get drunk to the point that I make myself look bad. Unless you have already met, a first date is the first impression a guy has on you. So unless being a drunk mess is the true you, slow down…you wouldn’t want him to think that you are out of control. And most of all, you wouldn’t want to do something that you will end up regretting when you wake up the next morning.

XOXO
Chrissy