Silence is Golden

I went to lunch with my husband last weekend without our kid and we sat in silence. We didn't say one word to each other for the entire hour that we ate. Well, maybe a few but not and entire conversation. We usually have our four year old with us and she dominates the conversation and our attention. This time left to ourselves we had nothing to say. When I was younger I used to see older couples sitting at restaurants or cafes in complete silence and would think to myself how sad they have nothing left to say. I would vow to never be that way and to always have something to discuss.

I know better now. There is nothing more intimate than finding someone that you can sit with in silence in complete silence with total comfort. I don't feel the pressure to keep the conversation going. I don't have to be funny or show off extensive vocabulary. I can just be myself in silence and visa versa. We share and say so much each day that sometimes the silence can be amazing. Sometimes the silence is necessary and welcomed. I love that I can sit with him in that way and feel just as satisfied as if we had discussed our future and our child and our life together.

At the table next to us, there was a man talking to his co-worker about his latest tuxedo fitting for his upcoming wedding. My husband and I both looked up from our meals at the exact same moment and peeled our eyes at each other. My husband said "don't do it" and I said, "Sucker!" then we smiled at each other and kept eating. That was the extent of our conversation. I never knew how nice it could be to have nothing to say to your spouse and have it be ok. The same goes for friendships or when you are dating someone. The point is to be together with someone to be connected in a way other than talking every minute and every second you are together. So, shut up enjoy the silence and get really close to the one you love.
 

Cheers,

Mimi