Silence is Golden

I went to lunch with my husband last weekend without our kid and we sat in silence. We didn't say one word to each other for the entire hour that we ate. Well, maybe a few but not and entire conversation. We usually have our four year old with us and she dominates the conversation and our attention. This time left to ourselves we had nothing to say. When I was younger I used to see older couples sitting at restaurants or cafes in complete silence and would think to myself how sad they have nothing left to say. I would vow to never be that way and to always have something to discuss.

I know better now. There is nothing more intimate than finding someone that you can sit with in silence in complete silence with total comfort. I don't feel the pressure to keep the conversation going. I don't have to be funny or show off extensive vocabulary. I can just be myself in silence and visa versa. We share and say so much each day that sometimes the silence can be amazing. Sometimes the silence is necessary and welcomed. I love that I can sit with him in that way and feel just as satisfied as if we had discussed our future and our child and our life together.

At the table next to us, there was a man talking to his co-worker about his latest tuxedo fitting for his upcoming wedding. My husband and I both looked up from our meals at the exact same moment and peeled our eyes at each other. My husband said "don't do it" and I said, "Sucker!" then we smiled at each other and kept eating. That was the extent of our conversation. I never knew how nice it could be to have nothing to say to your spouse and have it be ok. The same goes for friendships or when you are dating someone. The point is to be together with someone to be connected in a way other than talking every minute and every second you are together. So, shut up enjoy the silence and get really close to the one you love.
 

Cheers,

Mimi

Do We Really Want Good Guys?

Why is it that women rarely fall for the "good guy?”  I dated a nice guy at the end of senior year til about mid-way through sophomore year of college. The only problem was that he was a bit controlling and being that he was older than me, and I had no experience, I thought it was normal. After realizing that this was not normal, we broke up. After him I dated a complete douche bag...and believe it or not it lasted 4 years. Crazy huh! 

I realize that everyone has their flaws, but what is it about nice guys...why do they finish last? It can be said about women too. It seems as though the good girls are single because men want bad girls. I don't mean good/bad as in sexuality; I mean it as in argumentative, jealous, etc. Yes, I know you're thinking....who wants to be with someone like that, but trust me...many people are attracted to the drama.

I recently got connected with an old high school friend who lives in another state....no not the one from my older post, but funny thing is all 3 of us are friends. Anyway, we Skyped one night and he was telling me how crazy in love he was with me in high school and how I never gave him the time of day. During sophomore year, he moved out of town with his mom, but would come back every summer to visit his dad. On my 16th b-day (which was in the summer) he was in town and gave me a box to open for my gift....it was 14ct gold cross necklace. When we were reminiscing about the gift, he told me that to this day he has never bought any other woman jewelry besides his ex-wife. I felt really special. To think that he liked me so much that he spent that much money on me..... and at 16 you have to work hard for it.

We continue to speak almost every day and he continues to tell me he misses me and that he wants to see me. We were very close in high school...well as close as a guy and girl can be as friends lol. I could talk to him about anything and he would give me his honest opinion. When I would complain about my relationship and how my ex was treating me, he always reminded me of how beautiful I was and how I deserve someone who will treat me like a queen. He never would try and use my weak moments for times to come on to me, which is what I most admire about him.

Some of you may be wondering what was wrong with my friend and why we didn't date if he is such a nice guy...and honestly I don't have an answer. I guess it's because I never saw him as my type...which is weird because I don't really know what my type is.

I still can't see us together, but he is definitely the sweetest guy and the only person I know that would drop anything for his girl!